There's a lot of different types of people.
我是我 你是你
I am me and you are you.
有些人思想狭隘 我不想花时间跟他们来往
Some people with narrow mind. I don't wanna spend time Mmm.
也懒得理他们
Or care about them.
我想带你去见另一个人 他是我的好朋友
There's another person that I want you to meet. He's my best friend.
好啊!
Sure
-香槟 -天啊 香槟
Champagne. Champagne, man.
-香槟奏效了 -香槟奏效了
Champagne's working. Champagne, it's working.
Hey Hey
我也曾住在英国伦敦
I also lived in UK, in London. Oh
-这就是你打碟的地方? -我每个月都会在这里办活动
This the spot you DJ at This is where I throw my monthly events.
如今你认识他了 以后可以来参加派对
Now you know somebody so you can come to these parties.
太好了!
Yes
每当他感到不自在时…
Anytime he starts to feel uncomfortable about who he is...
-干杯! -干杯!
Cheers Cheers Kanpai
…我希望他能记住我
I want him to remember me,
宏堂和这些美好的社群成员 他们会告诉他:“你够好了
Kodo, and all these amazing community members who are saying, "You are enough."
不必再焦虑了 你属于这里”
No need to have that anxiety anymore. You belong."
看看结果如何
Let's see how this is gonna look.
我非常喜欢
Love it.
(第三天)
DAY 3
(跌倒七次 爬起来八次)
FALL DOWN SEVEN TIMES GET UP EIGHT
你的衣柜非常精彩
Okay, so your closet is actually great.
你有基本款 也有纽扣衬衫
You've got the basics down. You've got great the buttonup shirts,
长裤和外套也很好看 这些衣服我都非常喜欢
you've got great pants, you've got great jackets. I love all of those things.
不过没有一件是特别的 那我们就来点特别的
But none of them are really special, Kan. So let's add that special to it.
这不是亮色系 依然属于暗色系
So, this isn't a bright color. It's still relatively subdued.
不妨搭配…
But with this you could throw on
这件漂亮的飞行员外套 就能稍微展现出你的个性
a beautiful bomber jacket. It's just a little something that adds a bit of Kan.
我喜欢橘色
I like orange.
-我也很喜欢橘色
I love orange.
-只是我的衣柜里没有橘色
But for some reason there's no orange in my closet.
那我们就让它融入你的衣柜里吧
Well, then now we will incorporate it to your closet.
-去试试 -好
Okay. So give it a try, please. Yes.
-准备好了吗? -好了
Are you ready Okay. Yeah.
阿宽
很好
Tada Okay. Okay
感觉如何?
How do you feel in it
真可爱
I think it's cute
-可爱? -对 可爱
Cute. Yeah, kawaii. It's cute
我很喜欢你穿棕色
I love a brown on you.
这件外套太好看了
Oh, this looks so nice.
你看这个搭配有多时尚 时尚又不失活力
Do you see how chic this looks Yes It's still cool and still interesting. This is so cool
阿宽马上就适应了新造型
Kan really is taking to this new look
像鱼得到水一样可见 这是他向来的个性
like a duck to water. It's clear that he had this in him all along.
很好
Oh, yeah
太帅了
You look so good.
他只需要有人指点迷津
He just needed to be pointed in the right direction
让他知道他可以穿上任何颜色
and be shown that he can wear color
也不会把自己变成别人
without him looking like he's somebody he's not.
比起平日穿的衣服 穿上这些衣服
These clothes feel more like who I am
让我感觉真的在做自己
than what I usually wear.
这个风格让我可以由内到外
This is a style that expresses who I am inside
更准确地表达自我
that I want to show externally.
-你好 -晚上好
Konichiwa Good evening Hello
你好吗?
How are you Good, how are you
-坐下吧 -谢谢
Take a seat. -Arigato gozaimasu. Mmmm.
漂亮 我喜欢你的发质 只是觉得…
Gorgeous. I love the texture of your hair. I just feel like,
这两侧有点沉重
through the sides, it gets a little bit bulky,
我想把它弄得更贴服一点
and I wish that it sat into your head a little bit more.
我不打算留长
I'm not trying to grow it out,
就像你说的
so I think it's good to make the sides
不妨把这两侧头发打薄
a little lighter like you've mentioned.
很好 跟我来 先去冲洗一下
Ah, great. Here, come with me. Let's rinse your hair.
待在伦敦跟待在日本有什么不同?
What is the difference between, like, you in London and you here
你说你在伦敦期间比较快乐
'Cause you were saying you felt more in your element.
在东京 我比较在乎…
In Tokyo, I care more
别人怎么看我
about what other people think of me.
-为什么? -因为…
Because... Because...
日本人比较含蓄
people don't directly say things to you in Japan.
不过我们必须遵守纪律
But there are rules and you obey them.
要是违反纪律 就会被社会唾弃
If you don't, then you'll become socially singled out.
跟我想的不同 不过我大概了解那种…
It's not in the same way, but I guess what it is to, like, kind of
在成长的环境中 无法全然活出真我的感觉
feel like you can't live your alltheway honest truth in the situation that you're born into,
以及那股急欲逃走的冲动
and the need to escape that.
但是自♥由♥发自于内心 这是不变的道理
But it still is true that freedom is found from within.
至少在我的经历中
Part of how we see change
我们可以看到文化的转变
in culture, at least in my experience, is visibility.
人们得以看见同志 是勤奋向上、多才多艺的人
People being able to see that gay people are amazing hard workers, are very talented.
异性恋同事能做的事 他们也能凭一己之力做到
They do all the same things that their heteronormative counterparts do,
一切从我们决定不再躲躲藏藏开始
individually. It starts with us making small choices to be seen.
这也意味着我们不再需要蒙蔽自己了
That also can mean, like, you just being seen by yourself.
你是说我应该要努力成为 我想成为的那个人?
You mean, I should try becoming who I want to become
唯有活出真正的自己 才能帮助其他人
By you living in your truth, you make it easier
然后更轻松自在地活出真我
and better and more possible for other people to live in their truth.
环境从来不是问题 我们的反应才是重点
Because it's never the situation. It's always your reaction.
不是东京的问题 东京没有问题
Mmm. It's never Tokyo. That's not the issue.
问题是阿宽对身在东京的阿宽 有什么反应
The issue is Kan's reaction to Kan in Tokyo.
Mmm.
你也可以开始把在伦敦和温哥华
And you can kind of get a little bit of the freedom that you felt
感受到的自♥由♥带来东京
in London and Vancouver and start to bring it here.
没错
That's true.
稍微把头发吹高一点 懂吗?
Blow your hair out a little bit bigger, you know
我应该做得到
I think I could do it that way.
你认为日本进步了吗?
Do you think that Japan has made any sort of progress
过去几年以来
In the past few years,
日本人都在辩论LGBTQ群体的课题
Japanese people debate about LGBTQ people in the news.
在我看来
That's one of the biggest changes.
那是最大的改变了
In my opinion.
你认为这个进步是怎么发生的?
And how do you think that that progress happened
我相信是因为越来越多人开始发声了
I think it's because more people have raised their voices.
Hmm.
你想不想为这个群体持续发声?
Is that a conversation you want to continue to be a part of
很想
Oh, yes.
但是当你选择不屈服于 你成长的社会
By you choosing to be so radical, to not subscribe to the shame
加诸在男同志身上的耻辱时 这种行为已经算很前卫了
that society that you have been brought up in puts on gay men is radical.
你不必透过服饰来表达自我
And you don't have to do that by dressing like this.
大可打从心底深深地爱自己
You can radically love yourself just in your heart
因为你选择了过个不同的人生 而加诸在你身上的耻辱
and choose to not take on the shame that people
你不必当一回事
would give you for choosing to live differently.
你连把头发吹干的时间也不多
You have too good a hair to go blow dry
何必去理别人的想法
to be concerned what they're thinking.
如果小孩们见到我后深受鼓励
If children can see me and it encourages them a little,
-我会很开心
I'd be happy with that.
-天啊
Yes, God
然后上一点睫毛膏
Then, mascara.
你要学会这样上睫毛膏 才不会看起来像个疯子
This is how you make sure that you don't look crazy when you're learning how to put on mascara.
这么做能去除多余的膏体
It removes all the excess.
我喜欢在刷头多沾一点膏体
I like to get mine more on the tips.
准备好了吗?差不多了
Okay, ready It's happening.
三、二、一
Three, two, one.
Ah
-太好看了 -可爱吗?
It looks so good
可爱
Kawaii
-看看你有多帅啊
Look how handsome you are.
-太帅了
Really, it's amazing.
如果我们把真我隐藏起来
When we keep our truth of who we really are on our inside,
羞愧的声音就会越来越大声
we give the shame a voice to get louder and to grow.
当我们开始展现真我时
When we give visibility for our true selves to come out,
羞愧感就会消失 这个世界也会知道
it takes that shame away. It allows the world to see,
你不害怕 你是个很棒的人
"You're not so scary. You're actually really fabulous."
谢谢!
Mmm. Arigato gozaimasu
(第四天)
DAY 4